People, situations, circumstances, experiences, pain, bullying, and several things have made you stronger!

You are strong now, and it’s not your fault! And there is no going back!

Women tolerate abuse because of emotional vulnerability. - Gul Panag

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Strong Woman
Strong Woman, Strong Man
Strong woman with an Average man
Imbalance in Personality and Relationships
Why strong girls fall for bad boys
Why does a man go for a woman who does not use her brain much
Myth of beauty
How wicked women are good at tuning men on their fingers

1. Strong Woman

Dear Strong Woman!

If you are strong, It’s not your fault!

But do not let others use you in the name of strength, tolerance, and patience.

Be it in common relation with friends, colleagues, romantic, or any other form.

You are strong, and you might find it normal or can tolerate the unnecessary ego and drama in your relations, but If you allow them to get away with it once, you are telling them they can get away with it every time.

It is a harsh experience for several strong girls, and more friction comes from their family members or guardians. Sometimes from parents too!

So, I hope you understand the importance of raising your voice!

2. Strong Woman, Strong Man

It might seem like they are made for each other initially, but it is not after some months.

A Strong woman, who is emotionally, & financially independent, will struggle to figure out a balance of power over her partner because he doesn’t want to feel weak. He wants her to be submissive because of his strength. So he continues his attempts to claim dominance in their relationship.

And girls are taught to be a caretaker, and compassionate women, who have to sacrifice their will & desire for their partner.

So, she ended up struggling more.

3. Strong woman with an Average man

No matter how successful or independent they are, women become victims of their idea of a perfect fairytale life, while men often become abusive to overcome their insecurities.

Such Men can repeatedly humiliate you in front of their friends, family members, relatives, or any 3rd person.

So, she ended up struggling more.

4. Imbalance in Personality and Relationships

When people have a good image in the outside society, their only space to let out imperfection is their own home.

So, If he is a nice guy to society, he’ll let out all his frustration at home. He can be violent beyond expectation.

He gets violent if women do not work according to his will, demand, habits, taste, and control.

So, she ended up struggling more.

5. Why strong girls fall for bad boys

Women feel that bad boys (not in the sense of character or criminal-minded person) will protect them from the outside world.

Why does it happen?

Even the most intelligent girl can lose her mind to her heart

Results

Such men take advantage of the vulnerability of women who crave a home, family, and other domestic bliss.

So, she ended up struggling more.

6. Why does a man goes for a woman who does not use her brain much

If a man is wise, the lady feels proud of his man.

But, if the lady is wise, a man does not always feel proud. She becomes a new competition for his mind. And he might get insecure, or he will start looking for other flaws in her. This will imbalance the relationship.

Since men are strong, intelligent, and imaginative, while women are physically weak and known for not-so-wise decisions or often emotional decisions.

All relationships go through cycles and phases. The honeymoon period doesn’t last forever. Work stress and family obligations can get in the way.

And in all this, he would not like an interruption from the woman, who would like to create mental pressure on him.

So, they go for women who do not use their brains much.

Women let men work for them, think for them, and take on their responsibilities. When a man feels like a king, at least in front of his woman, it boosts his ego.

So, a man goes for a woman who does not use her brain much.

If she is smart, she doesn’t use it much in front of her man intentionally. If she used it, she ended up struggling more.

7. Myth of beauty

People say that beauty will help you to keep your man in place. And they define beauty as a beautiful face and a perfect body figure.

Poets and sometimes Inspirational & motivational writers tell you that outer beauty doesn’t matter.

Which is nowhere the complete truth.

The beauty of thought and inner beauty also matter, along with outer beauty.

Ignoring a significant factor is like missing an essential element in the Science lab, whose output will be unexpected.

The fact is:

Where the beauty of the face can help with short-term satisfaction.

It’s the beauty of thoughts (compatibility) and inner beauty (purity of heart) that helps keep the relationship in place for the long term.

And all three are essential in the necessary ratio!

8. How wicked women are good at tuning men on their fingers

Have you ever wondered why most men prefer the nastier girl to date?

She is clever and wicked. Who is innocent, beautiful, and glamorous by her face and looks for the outside world. Who can be dangerous & devil by heart?

According to psychologists and therapists, such women have had unfortunate learning experiences, especially about men. So, they developed a manipulative approach to dominate and control the man around them.

They understand how much a man will surrender to pursue sexual access.

They understand how to make him feel that there is no friction and that the man controls the relationship.

There are so many secrets only they can understand and know about men, along with the therapists and relationship counselors.

Ultimately, a man does not feel safe to show his vulnerability for one or more reasons to their partner, who deserves it. And wicked women ended up tuning them.

So, a strong woman ended up suffering.

Resources:

Good men project, Firstpost, observation, experiences of surrounding, books based on relationships written by counselors, and therapists, conversations with several other strong women who are either married or in Relationships.

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I want to share because I’ve learned this from the behavior of people in my surrounding, going through the ups & downs of my life & the several other women I’ve interacted with in the Journey!

If you understand these, it can help you a lot. Go over it again, take your decisions with wisdom & overcome your weaknesses! All the best!

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Happy two years as an active Creator! I am feeling so Happy & grateful. Thank you, dear people, for making it possible for me to stay here and for giving me healthy hope about what I have to do next.

This is my Journey!

Before these positive vibes, I had also gone through a journey of negative vibes and self-doubt and felt like a loser several times, where my patience was tested badly.

Because, When you feel almost everyone who has started their journey with you is already on their next milestone, and you are the only one lagging, you feel separated & lost the sense of belonging to that Community.

Because things are not the same as they were before. And you are not alone, who face this problem. People often leave the less successful people behind because of many reasons.

Though I am grateful to meet amazing people here who decided to follow me, connect with me, listen to me, read my content & support me as I have never thought.

But on the other side, I have lost a lot of connections too! I lost some. After all, I had written long comments, & lost some because I failed to comment. I lost some because I was still trying to connect genuinely when they now have many 1000s of other people like me; & I lost some because I could not reply instantly. So, the community I was trying to build was not based on win-win situations.

And because of this, I was Trapped in fear of investing time in people only to see them go when they hit a particular milestone! And this was continuously draining my energy.

But, then deeply realized people will come & go. Those who will keep supporting you with honest feedback, Client Recommendations & help you to build your money empire/side hustle are the true gems.

And this is how I am getting the motivation to diversify my source of income and build other assets! And I am finally trying to balance being a User & Creator.

We have to reach our next milestone - multiple digits of Money earning instead of just followers! Because they can not pay bills on just the number of followers.

Now, how can I be more thankful to these fantastic People? Thanks for being part of my Creators Journey!

Please share with your favorite Creators and tell them how they are making a difference!

© Monika

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I was a chubby but healthy kid. You have probably observed people whose faces turn Red when they laugh (like a tomato).

Because Childhood & teenage is a stage where we are less or not stressed at all about Life; if we are, we ignore it because keep moving ahead is our ultimate step.

But the last few years were full of ups & down. I have quickly lost weight because of city & hostel life, and I quickly gained it in the last one and a half years (lockdown, & then homemade food). Indian moms serve more when they feel we are not looking fit & strong. Probably I used to eat more when I used to feel stressed, or I used to eat more often as a carefree girl.

As we focus more on career life, we ignore our sitting hours, eyes, and physical & mental health! It happened to me too. Being an engineering student, screen time is a part of your life!

And mainly, when focusing more on Artificial Intelligence, you have to focus more and more on the screen. Also, when you have to type and create content for your lovely readers, it results in fewer breaks for eyes & body and more stress.

So, I hope you can understand how unhealthy habits we develop or we start sacrificing our health for careers.

It was last month, and I decided to stay fit. And you know what? I am working on it. I focused on Changing my diet foods eating habits & trying to stick to my sleeping routine. And I got this book: The New Me. And here I would like to share its review with you guys!

Book Title: The New Me - A guidebook to perfect health

Author: Gagan Dhawan

Pages: 80

Book Review!

This book is so much insightful and packed in 80 pages. The value & knowledge is simple & short, still overflowing. What I would like to say is Fewer words - more sense!

One day, the Author realized that he now had to take medications. And when he realized if he started taking them, there would be no going back, He was concerned, serious & more active about his health.

He took 90 days of challenges, and he found that after 90 days, he is fit & fine according to all medical tests, and he doesn't need medications now.

So, in this book, he has shared how to set up this three months challenge, what we have to do, what not, eating habits, food, diets, minor things like sleeping habits & drinking water, etc. And much more.

So I required this book, so I am not saying how insightful this is as a book lover. I am sharing how much value it is, according to a person who is now on her health-fitness Journey! I hope to share some behind the scenes about my fitness Journey soon!

Recommended To: those who are trying to take their physical health seriously.

Well, if you are someone, who is more & more practical, & does not love the book, let us take a 90 days challenge to fit ourselves!

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Though here is a little reminder and message I want to tell you out loud that: you can always reach out for help when it is too much!

The very first thing I want to make clear is that you embrace your flaws because no one is perfect. The only different perspective in the eyes of optimistic is — you can be perfect in someone's eyes!

But why! Here are reasons without any selfishness.

I have observed the fire of passion in you is really different, different from the hunger for just money.

I know you love the journey of breaking societal limits & barriers, and that is really a good thing.

Not only this, you know how to give hope & spread light & smile, even though you are not even aware, that what's the depth of darkness.

Along with it, one more thing which makes you different is that does not matter how hard time you are having, you do not throw your problems on someone else, even the person is closest to you, or you know the Perspective can give you a helping hand and help you to move out from the darkness.

I know you love hugs whenever you are feeling low, though I do not know the reasons. The good thing is, they work like magic for you.

Though there is a little reminder and message I want to tell you out loud that:

Sometimes it is totally ok to feel low; reach out and ask for a little favor.

You know, you can always reach out for help when it is too much.

Keep this thing in mind that taking responsibility does not mean you have to sacrifice yourself or you have to wear a coat of toughness on your skin, mind & heart, including emotions.

I want to remind you, you deserve a lot.

Do not forget to give credit to yourself, & loved one's where ever it is due.

Life is not meant to work hard and work hard & earn money & spend money.

I want to remind you, you are worthy enough to enjoy life to spend time with the people who care for you & you truly care.

Not only that, I want to remind you to take enough breaks whenever you feel on the verge of breaking down or even before that.

I want to remind you to move on from past life.

Not only that, but I want to help you to heal from all the wounds which are given by people you have trusted mistakenly.

I want to see you growing, healing, feeling little satisfaction & touching the sky.

Not only that, but I would like to accompany you until you do not find your true happiness or someone who can support you & respect you more than me.

Give a little part of love to yourself too!

Dedicated to all the lovely souls out there & to the people I admire a lot!

When I was writing it, the perspectives in my mind were my closed ones, including my Parents!

But when I was reading & arranging it, I realized that it goes for every Parent, partner, or someone who knows how to love truly!

Share with the people you care about! And do not forget to Celebrate Your Love.

Thank you!

© Monika

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I want to tell you out loud that - you can always reach out for help

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How complicated yet powerful Love can be in relationships; we can observe it in our daily life and the things near us.

Book: Love Science — Psychology of attraction!

Author: Surajit Roy

Publisher: Notion Press

Pages: 100+

Book Review:

There are different stages of love, classified based on our life Journey.

Childhood, Teenage, Young age, and Old age.

In childhood, we are emotionally attached to our Parents, Siblings, or someone who cares about us a lot.

In our teenage, we experience — friends' love, feel infatuated or create stories about crushes in our head, which are most of the time one-sided or in our imaginations.

It is not the fault of teenagers. Books & movies make us like this.

As we move towards young age, there are two important factors:

1. Lust and 2. Companionship.

Though 2 people are never alike & for more than 90% of people look seriously matter. They are influenced by Physical attraction, lust, sex, beauty, and much more. That is why we can observe that a lot of Indian arrange marriages are painful. And in love marriages, love disappears after 3-4 months or 1-2 years.

If you are driven by companionship (rare people), then in such cases, Emotions, intimacy, Strong bond, Communication, Commitment, etc., matters a lot.

My take on Book Narration

It is doing great on the Philosophical part & research-based interest. Along with it, it is also creating confusion and controversies too; as we all know, love is different and varies from individual to individual.

Also, the song's lyrics bring two contexts. One is entertainment when we are in the mood for enjoyment & another is feeling, understanding, and pain when we are feeling low.

The cover of the book expresses it clearly. Love is not like our imaginations or attractive & smooth like fantasies in romance novels or movies. It is complicated, messy, and hard to connect and keep all the dots in 1 thread. It seriously needs care and proper balance.

Suggestions for Author:

The narration needs to be more smooth after half book & before the last quarter. This book needs one more revision for proper flow.

How did I feel while reading this?

It is really hard to digest a lot of opinions and facts without questioning. So, if we do not try to relate things to our real life and surrounding, the stuff of romance fiction/ Bollywood movies will keep empowering our beliefs.

But the reality is: Love is one thing, and relationship is another. Love is free & form of freedom. Relationships come with partnership & love.

How can this book be helpful for you?

Benefits: It can help you to understand how to pick up the right life partner without many compromises and to force your beliefs.

Recommended To: Those people looking forward to understanding what actual Relationships and Love are in real life. I can not recommend this book to — beginners and hopeless romantic people empowered by escaping reality.

I will share tips, factors, & more things in upcoming posts!

Share with someone who is new in Relationships or is dating someone or wants to date.

Get the Book: Book Link

Original Source: Love Science — Psychology of attraction! Book Review

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Before moving ahead, I would like to tell you that it may contain some mature content. If you are uncomfortable or do not understand such things, kindly do not read further.

Contents

1. Strong Woman

2. Strong Woman, Strong Man

3. Strong woman with an Average man

4. Imbalance in Personality and Relationships

5. Why strong girls fall for bad boys

6. Why does a man goes for a woman who does not use her brain much

7. Myth of beauty

8. How wicked women are good at tuning men on their fingers

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