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People, situations, circumstances, experiences, pain, bullying, and there are several things, which have made you stronger! 

You are strong now, it’s not your fault! And there is no going back! 

Women tolerate abuse because of emotional vulnerability. - Gul Panag 


Before moving ahead, I would like to tell you that it may contain some mature content. If you are not comfortable or do not understand such things, kindly do not read further. 

Contents

  1. Strong Woman 
  2. Strong Woman, Strong Man 
  3. Strong woman, with an Average man 
  4. Imbalance in Personality and Relationships 
  5. Why strong girls fall for bad boys 
  6. Why man goes for a woman who does not use her brain much 
  7. Myth of beauty 
  8. How wicked women are good in tuning men on their fingers 

1. Strong Woman

Dear Strong Woman!

If you are strong, It’s not your fault!

But do not let others use you in the name of strength, tolerance, and patience.

Be it in common relation with friends, colleagues, romantic or any other form of relation.

You are strong, and you might find it normal or can tolerate the unnecessary ego and drama in your relations, but If you allow them to get away with it once, you are telling them they can get away with it every time.

It is a harsh experience for several strong girls, and more friction comes from their family members or guardians. Sometimes from parents too!

So, I hope you understand the importance of raising your voice!

2. Strong Woman, Strong Man

It might seem like made for each other in the starting, but it is not after some months.

A Strong woman, who is emotionally, & financially independent, will struggle to figure out a balance of power over her partner. Because he doesn’t want to feel weak. He wants her to submissive, because of his strength. So he continues his attempts to claim dominance in their relationship.

And girls are taught to be a caretaker, and compassionate women, who have to sacrifice their will & desire for their partner.

So, she ended up struggling more.


3. Strong woman, with an Average man

No matter how successful or independent they are, women become victims of their idea of a perfect fairytale life while men often become abusive to overcome their insecurities.

Such Men can repeatedly humiliate you in front of their friends, family members, relatives, or any 3rd person.

So, she ended up struggling more.

4. Imbalance in Personality and Relationships

When people have a good image in the outside society, their only space to let out imperfection is their own home.

So, If he is a nice guy to society, then he’ll let out all his frustration at the home. He can be violent beyond expectation.

He gets violent if women do not work according to his will, demand, habits, taste, and control.

So, she ended up struggling more.

5. Why strong girls fall for bad boys

Women feel that bad boys (not in the sense of character or criminal-minded person) will protect them from the outside world.

Why does it happen?

Even the most intelligent girl can lose her mind to her heart

Results

Such men take advantage of the vulnerability of women who crave a home, family, and other domestic bliss.

So, she ended up struggling more.

6. Why man goes for a woman who does not use her brain much

If a man is wise, the lady simply feels proud of his man.

But, if the lady is wise, a man does not always feel proud. She becomes a new competition for his mind. And he might get insecure, or he will start looking for other flaws in her. which is going to imbalance the relationship.

Since men are strong, intelligent, and imaginative, while women are physically weak, and known for not-so-wise decisions or often emotional decisions.

All relationships go through cycles and phases. The honeymoon period doesn’t last forever. Work stress and family obligations can get in the way.

And in all this, he would not like an interruption from the woman, who would like to create mental pressure on him.

So, they go for women who do not use their brain much.

Such Women let men work for them, think for them, and take on their responsibilities. When a man feels like a king, at least in front of his woman, it boosts his ego.

So, man goes for a woman who does not use her brain much.

If she is smart, then she doesn’t use it much in front of her man, intentionally. If she use it, she ended up struggling more.

7. Myth of beauty

People say that beauty will help you to keep your man in place. And they define beauty in terms of a beautiful face and a perfect body figure.

Poets and sometimes Inspirational & motivational writers tell you, that outer beauty doesn’t matter.

Which is nowhere the complete truth. 


The beauty of thought and inner beauty also matter, along with outer beauty.

Ignoring a particularly important factor is just like missing an important element in the Science lab, whose output will be unexpected.

The fact is:

Where the beauty of the face can help for short-term satisfaction.

It’s the beauty of thoughts (compatibility), and inner beauty (purity of heart), which helps to keep the relationship in the place for long term.

And all three are important in the necessary ratio!

8. How wicked women are good in tuning men on their fingers

Have you ever wondered why most men prefer the nastier girl to date?

She is clever and wicked. Who is innocent, beautiful, and glamorous by her face and looks, for the outside world. Who can be dangerous & devil by heart.

According to psychologists and therapists, such women have had unfortunate learning experiences in life, especially about men. So, they ended up developing a manipulative approach to dominate and control the man around them.

They understand how much a man is willing to surrender in the pursuit of sexual access.

They understand how to make him feel that there is no friction and that the man is in control of the relationship.

There are so many secrets only they can understand and know about man, along with the therapists and relationship counselors.

Ultimately, a man does not feel safe to show his vulnerability for one or more reasons to their partner who deserves it. And wicked women ended up tuning them.

So, a strong woman ended up suffering.

Resources:

Good men project, Firstpost, observation, experiences of surrounding, books based on relationships written by counselors, and therapists, conversations with several other strong women who are either married or in Relationships.

❤️

I want to share because I’ve learned this from the behavior of people in my surrounding, going through the ups & downs of my life & the several other women I’ve interacted with in the Journey!

If you’ll understand these, it can help you a lot. Go over it again and take your decisions with wisdom & overcome your weaknesses! All the best! 

Your Small Contribution can help lots of Strong Women to suffer less!

If you like it, kindly share your feedback, share it with your friends & follow me for more insightful content 

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Original Source: Why the Strong Women suffer in relationships

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Happy 2 years, as an active Creator! I am feeling so Happy & grateful. Thank you dear people, for making it possible for me to stay here, and to give me a healthy hope about what I have to do next. 

This is my Journey!

Before these positive vibes, I have also gone through the journey of negative vibes, self-doubt and felt like a loser several times, where my patience was tested badly.

Because, When you feel, almost everyone who has started their journey with you, is already on their next milestone, and you are the only one lagging behind; you feel separated & lost the sense of belonging to that Community. 


Because, things are not same like they were before. And you are not alone, who face this problem. People often leave the less successful people behind, because of many reasons. 

Though I am grateful that I have met amazing people here, who decided to follow me, connect with me, listen me, read my content & support like I have never thought.

But on other side, I have lost a lot of connections too! Lost some, because I have written long comments, & lost some, because I failed to comment. Lost some, because I was still trying to connect genuinely, when they have now many 1000s of other people like me; & lost some because I was not able to reply them instantly. So, the community I was trying to build, was not based on win-win situations. 

And because of this, I was Trapped in the fear of investing time in people, only to see them go, when they will hit a certain milestone! And this was continuously draining my energy. 

But, then deeply realized, people will come & go. Those who will keep supporting you with honest feedback, Client Recommendations & help you to build your money empire / side hustle are the true gems.

And this is how, I am getting motivation, to diverse my source of income and building other assets! And I am finally, trying to find a balance between being a User & Creator. 

We have to reach our next milestone - multiple digits of Money earning, instead of just followers! Because they can not pay bills by just number of followers. 

Now, how I can be more thankful to these amazing People! Thanks for being part of my Creators Journey! 

Share with your favorite Creators and let them know, how they are making a difference!

© Monika

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I was a chubby but healthy kid. Probably you have observed people, whose face turn Red when they laugh (like tomato). 

Because Childhood & teenage is a stage, where we are less or not stressed at all about Life. If we are, we ignore it, because keep moving ahead is our ultimate step.

But last few years were full of ups & down. I have quickly lost weight because of city & hostel life, and quickly gain it in last one and half years (lockdown, & then homemade food) Indian Mom's serve more, when they feel, we are not looking fit & strong. Probably I used to eat more, when I used to feel stressed; or I used to eat more often as a care free girl.

Any ways, as we start focusing more on career life, we start ignoring our sitting hours, eyes, physical & mental health! It happened to me too. Being an engineering student, screen time is a part of your life! 

And especially when you are focusing more on Artificial Intelligence, you have to focus more and more on screen. Along with it, when you have to type, and create content for your lovely readers, it results in less breaks for eyes & body and more stress too.

So, I hope you are able to understand, how unhealthy habits we develop, or we start sacrificing our own health for career.

It was last month, I have decided to stay fit. And you know what, I am working on it. I focused on Changing my diet foods, eating habits & trying to stick to sleeping routine. And, I got this book: The New Me. And here I would like to share its review for you guys!



Book Title: The New Me - A guidebook to perfect health
Author: Gagan Dhawan
Pages: 80

Book Review!

This book is so much insightful packed in 80 pages. The value & knowledge is simple & short, still overflowing. Basically, what I would like to say is: Fewer words - more sense!

It was one day, Author realized that he now have to take medications. And when he realized, if he will start taking them, there is no going back; He was concerned, serious & more active about his health.

He took 90 days challenges, and what he found is, after 90 days he is fit & fine according to all medical tests, and he doesn't need medications now.

So, in this book, he has shared how to set up these 3 months challenge, what we have to do, what not, eating habits, food, diets, minor things like sleeping habit & drinking water, etc. And much more.

So I required this book, so I am not saying how much insightful this is as a book lover. I am sharing, how much valuable it is, according to a person who is now on her health fitness Journey! And Hoping to share some behind the scenes about fitness Journey soon!

Recommended To: those who are trying to take their physical health seriously.

Well, if you are someone, who is more & more practical, & do not love book, then let us take a 90 days challenge, to fit ourselves!
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Though here is a little reminder and message I want to tell you out loud that: you can always reach out for help, when it is too much!

The very first thing I want to make clear is that, embrace your flaws, because no one is perfect. The only different perspective in the eyes of optimistic is — you can be perfect in someone's eyes!

But why! Here are reasons without any selfishness.


I have observed the fire of passion in you is really different, different from the hunger of just money. 

I know you love the journey of breaking societal limits & barriers, and that is really a good thing.

Not only this, you know how to give hope & spread light & smile, even though you are not even aware, that what's the depth of darkness.

Along with it, one more thing which makes you different is, does not matter how hard time you are having, you do not throw your problems on someone else, even the person is closest to you, or you know the Perspective can give you a helping hand and help you to move out from darkness.

I know you love hugs, whenever you are feeling low, though I do not know the reasons, but the good thing is, they work like magic for you.

Though here is a little reminder and message I want to tell you out loud that:

Sometimes it is totally ok to feel low, reach out and ask for a little favor.

You know, you can always reach out for help, when it is too much.

Keep this thing in mind, that taking responsibility does not mean you have to sacrifice yourself, or you have to wear a coat of toughness on your skin, mind & heart including emotions.

I want to remind you, you deserve a lot.

Do not forget to give credits to yourself, & loved one's, where ever it is due.

Life is not meant to do just work hard and work hard & earn money & spend money.

I want to remind you, you are worthy enough to enjoy the life, to spend time with the people who care for you & you truly care.

Not only that, I want to remind you to take enough breaks, when ever you feel on the verge of break down or even before that.

I want to remind you to move on from past life.

Not only that, but I want to help you to heal from all the wounds which are given by people you have trusted mistakenly.

I want to see you growing, healing, feeling little satisfaction & touching the sky.

Not only that, but I would like to accompany you until you will not find your true happiness, or someone who can support you & respect you, more than me.

Give little part of love to yourself too!


Dedicated to all the lovely souls out there & to the people I admire a lot!

When I was writing it, the perspectives in my mind were, my closed ones, including my Parents!

But when I was reading & arranging it, I realized that it goes for every Parent, partner, or someone who know how to love truly!

Share with the people you care! And do not forget to Celebrate Your Love.

Thank you!
© Monika

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I want to tell you out loud that - you can always reach out for help
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How complicated yet powerful Love can be in relationships, we can observe it in our daily life, and in the things near around us.

Book: Love Science — Psychology of attraction!
Author: Surajit Roy
Publisher: Notion Press
Pages: 100+


Book Review:

As there are different stages of love, classified on the basis of our life Journey.
Childhood, Teenage, Young age, and Old age.

In childhood, we are emotionally attached with our Parents, Siblings or someone who care for us a lot.

In teenage, we experience — friends love, feel infatuated or create stories about crushes in our head; which are most of the time 1 sided or our imaginations.

It is not the fault of teenagers. Books & movies make us like this.

As we move towards young age, there are two important factors:
1. Lust and 2. Companionship.

Though 2 person are never alike & for more than 90% people look seriously matter. They are influenced by Physical attraction, lust, sex, beauty and much more. That is why we can observe that a lot of Indian arrange marriages are painful. And in love marriages, love disappear after 3-4 months or 1-2 years.

If you are driven by companionship (rare people), then in such cases, Emotions, intimacy, Strong bond, Communication, Commitment, etc., matters a lot.

My take on Book Narration
It is doing great on Philosophical part & research based part. Along with it, it is also creating confusion and controversies too, as we all know love is different and vary from individual to individual.

Also, the songs lyrics are bringing 2 contexts. One is entertainment when we are in mood of enjoyment & another is feeling, understanding and the pain when we are feeling low.

The cover of book is expressing it clearly. Love is not like our imaginations or attractive & smooth like fantasies in romance novels or movies. It is complicated, messy and hard to connect and keep all the dots in 1 thread. It seriously needs care, and proper balance. 

Suggestions for Author:
Narration need to be more smooth. After half book & before last quarter. This book needs 1 more revision for proper flow.


How I feel while reading this?
It is really hard to digest a lot of opinions and facts without questioning. So, if we will not try to relate the things with our real life and surrounding, the things of romance fiction/ Bollywood movies will keep empowering our beliefs.

But the reality is: Love is one thing, and relationship is another. Love is free & form of freedom.  Relationships come with partnership & love.

How this book can be helpful for you?
Benefits: It can help you to understand, how to pick up right life partner, without many compromises and forcing your beliefs.

Recommended To: Those people who are looking forward to understanding what actually Relationships and Love are, in real life. I can not recommend this book to — beginners and hopeless romantic people who are empowered by escaping the reality.

I will share tips, factors, & more things in upcoming posts! 

Share with someone who is new in Relationships, or is dating someone or want to date. 

Get the Book: Book Link


© Monika


Original Source: Love Science — Psychology of attraction! Book Review
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Heal wounds and heal the world! Let us talk about healing today! What is healing?

After reading articles and posts of trusted creators I have realized that when people start feeling that their silence can be heard in this loud world, they start feeling good and comfortable and that is how their healing journey begins.


It is not that everyone is 100% perfect. Everyone has their wounds, cuts, scars, and people are looking for solutions to their problems.




In the last few days, I have realized that a lot of people who need solutions to problems, confuse the expertise for good solutions with the outer look. Like if they observe good graphic posts, then they misunderstand the content provided in it by the quality content and start considering it as the solution to their problem, which is not accurate.


Quality content is something, which resonates with your heart and soul. You can hear the voice of a creator in your head, you can feel those emotions in your heart; this is what a piece of content seems quality content for you.

They feel resonating with your thoughts and that is how the flow of positivity transforms towards you and that is how the healing begins. Well, I am not an expert about healing, but after passing from the ups and downs of my life in the last 5 years, I can say that sometimes it's ok to not be ok.


One day we heal, another day we are suffering. One day we are trying to do our best, another day people are trying to break us, and the cycle run continuously. No one is perfectly healed, people have to live the life journey instead of just surviving somehow. 

People have to live together, that's how they can heal together, and grow together.


Do not be selfish, do not shut out the important conversations, do not ignore important things.

You know, by doing such things you are only creating boundaries in your relations. By doing such things, you are only trying to separate or push those people who care for you. It is ok to feel hurt by other people's words. The only thing we can do is, just stop expecting from them. Everyone has a different mindset. If they want to see perfection in you, then make sure that they also seem perfect in your eyes. If not then don't take their words on your heart. You need better people in your life. No one is perfect. 


People need love, kindness, and support. Everyone's, needs are different. That is why compatibility matters a lot. Give your 100 percent towards the people, where you feel your silence can be heard. You need people who can support you, who can help you to move ahead and to live happily and enjoy this beautiful life instead of just surviving somehow.


What are your thoughts about the healing?


© Monika Singh


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Original Source: Healing happens in layers, hurting and healing | Moni

Originally Published on NbliK blog

 


You may also like: My little book of love to understand what is love!




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